Can't Always Get What You Want
Can’t Always Get What You Want?
[adapted from recruitersconnection.com]
The Rolling Stones recorded these lyrics in 1968, but you may also remember them from the first season of Glee: “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need.”
The hard part is differentiating between what you want and what you need. Your needs are the things that you truly require in order to survive; they pertain to your personal wellbeing and are fundamental to the pursuit of happiness. When these needs are met, you feel secure. Your wants are the items for which you have a strong desire. What one needs for survival is usually a far cry from what s/he wants for comfortable living. Balance and common sense are necessary to make appropriate choices about your wants and needs. Finances aside, it is just as important to analyze what your needs and wants are in a career. Do you need to work in a place where you feel that you contribute to the common good? Do you want to work in a company that shares your moral beliefs and standards?
Take a minute to analyze your current goals. If the goals that you’re setting reflect what you really want, then you will be more motivated to achieve them. If your goals are meeting someone else’s wants or needs, then you may be in for a long, frustrating journey. Take some time to explore and identify your needs and wants, defining what it means to be successful by your own personal standards.
Be aware, too, of the shoulds in your life. Every time you say that you should do something, you imply that you neither want nor need to do it, but, for one reason or another, you feel required to do it, draining your energy and taking your focus off of what is truly important to you. By falling victim to the shoulds, you limit your opportunities as you make career decisions. While you can’t eliminate them all, set a goal to remove as many of these shoulds as possible.
Sometimes logic and common sense are operative when considering your needs and wants. Immediate gratification can take over, and wants quickly become needs. Use these simple guidelines when conducting your job search:
- Formally write down what you NEED in order to live at a survival level.
- Clarify what you WANT and when you want it.
- Sort out the SHOULDS that you have become tied to.